6 Ways to be a Better Wife!

About a year ago I was asked to speak on marriage at a ladies meeting at our church.  In light of sharing about marriage on my blog I felt it would be good to post what I shared that evening. It was directed towards the wife more than the husband, sorry ladies but you can't print this out and tell your husband to read it ;) This is for you - and I promise you if you start applying some of these things to your life and your marriage you will see a change in your husband!

If you have surrendered your life to the Lord, we should be striving to keep God as the top priority of our lifes, but who is supposed to be first in our human relationships as wives? Our husbands. Is your husband in that rightful position in your life? (Is God in His??) It takes an effort to make and keep God first in our lives doesn’t it? Well it takes an effort on our parts to make & keep our husbands our top priorty in our human relationships. One of my favorite verses in the Bible is Proverbs 18:22. This verse is special to me because God used this verse during Mo's proposal to me. It says "Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the Lord" So what kind of wife are you? Are you a good find? Would your husband still say that you are even after years of marriage? If not, what do you need to do or change to be a good find? (God had to remind me of things I need to change and get back to as well)

These are some things I have learned and try to incorporate as a wife:


Be a Praying Wife
Pray for your husband, your family, your marriage every single day. I said it takes an effort on our part - every day. Pray specifically! Did you know that James Dobson fasts and prays every Tuesday for his children? I wonder how different even our churches & children would be if all Christian fathers/mothers did that! I have in my Bible a list of things I pray over Mo; make a list of things you can pray for your husband about - few suggestions are to pray for him spiritually, to be a loving husband and spiritual leader, pray for his job, etc. If you’re not sure, ask him what you can pray about for him on a daily or weekly basis.
As a little insert while on this topic of prayer, one of my close friends has a rebellious and possibly unsaved husband. She gave this word of encouragement to pass on to those in similar situations:

There is a time where you come to a realization that there is nothing you can do to change your husband or bring him to God. You have to give him over to God. You need to trust in God that he will deal with him. God's timing is perfect. Even though we want to have our husbands saved, and become a leader of our family overnight, we need to be patient and wait upon the Lord. This is where prayer comes in. Prayer is the most important piece of this puzzle. Even though we may not hear from the Lord personally, know that whoever you are praying for…the Lord is speaking to him.

Another thing for me is that I have to pray for the Lord to help me love my husband. There was a time where I felt nothing but disgust and sorrow over the things he's done, said, and even questioned if there is a God. With continuous prayer and trust in the Lord, I know that He is taking care of my husband. He has certainly helped me see the good in him and to love those attributes instead of the negative.

Also, it is important for the wife to set the example for the husband. I believe that the husband will eventually see the Holy Spirit shine in his wife's life and will want that for himself. To me, setting an example for the household is the hardest thing to do. This is where you need to focus on yourself, give yourself over to the Lord, and live for the Lord. Pray, pray, pray, and let the Lord guide you, your actions, and your thoughts.

Be a Preparing Wife
How many of your husband’s would be questioning where you really were today if each of you freshened up your hair and make up before going home?? ;) I know some of us think, “well my husband knows what I look like when I’m really fixed up, and I’m tired”….effort ladies!! I have a full time job and when I leave work for the day the last thing I want to do is freshen up before seeing Mo. I just want to go home and relax but we want to keep our man interested! I’m sure you’ve all heard before - pretend like your dating again. When I was dating Mo he would come by sometimes in the evening and you better believe it I had my makeup and hair fixed up! Your husband will feel so important and this is all a part of putting him as our top priority.

Another thing you can prepare is your home, if you are home before he is or you are a stay at home mom try and prepare the home for your husband’s arrival. Clean up, clean up toys, and make the home a good place for him to come home to.  And don't forget to freshen yourself too! :)

Be a Pure Wife
Some more of my favorite verses...Proverbs 31:11-12 says "The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil. She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life." – does your husband safely trust in you? Do you represent a pure woman and wife in your mouth, actions, motives...several women in the Bible got in trouble with that one... Do you make it easy for your husband to safely trust you?

One way to help with this is to set some standards in your marriage. While Mo & I were dating we had standards for our dating relationship and we also had a list of tempting situations to avoid. When we got married we rolled that mind set into our marriage and set some marriage standards. I want to share just a couple in regards to staying pure from our standards. In no way would I say that you need to put these specific ones in your marriage, but I would encourage you to set some kind of standards. TOO many marriages are destroyed due to infidelity and standards keep you away from the line of danger. To name a couple of our standards and boundaries, we do not have personal phone calls or emails with those of the opposite sex. It may seem harmless but if that man wants to be better friends with you rather than your husband, there’s a problem - and vise versa if a woman would rather be friends with your husband. We do not allow anyone of the opposite sex to be in our home when we are by ourselves. I feel you are putting yourself in a dangerous position if you do. These are just a couple of our standards. They may seem crazy, but I feel they are protecting our marriage and our purity. We all still have to live with this flesh and it cannot be trusted.

To read further on purity in your marriage, read Proverbs chapters 4 – 7.

Be a Positive Wife
Ephesians 4:29 says "Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth, but that which is good to the use of edifying, that it may minister grace unto the hearers." Another one of our standards is not speak bad about each other, even in joking. We never wanted to be like those couples that were constantly picking at each other or making jokes about each other, yes it can be funny but it can be hurtful or reach that level of being hurtful and it can make you bitter or cause you to get negative thoughts in your mind about your spouse. Wouldn’t satan just love that…that’s when he will try and hang the bait in front of your face to make you fall and destroy your marriage.

You will reap what you sow. If you are tearing down your husband with your words you will reap a defeated and probably bitter husband. But if you are having edifying words coming out of your mouth will reap an uplifted, strong husband! Your husband needs to hear that you are proud of him, that he is a great husband, a great friend, a great provider - he needs your support! Beth Moore says that a man’s number one insecurity is the inability to provide for his family. We are the support staff to our husband! Take on that role with all your heart, your husband needs you to encourage and edify him. I wonder how many of you would take a commitment to only say things to your husband this week that are good to the use of edifying. It’s scriptural; we just read it in verse 29. I bet if you do it for one week you will see some changes.

Along the same thread, Mo & I made a commitment when we got married to never use what we call the “D-Word” (divorce). We committed to never threaten or use that word when arguing. You reap what you sow, remember that!

Be a Protective Wife
I'm not talking about being a jealous wife, but be protective of your time with your husband. When it’s time to spend with him avoid your cell phone, text messages, or home phone. Devote time solely to him and for him. In your ministry or life there’s a time to say yes to do things, even church things, and times to say no to keep your husband as your number one human priority, even above church serving. I know this sounds bad and some women may disagree with me, but yes God comes first in our lives and we are to serve Him, but He has called us to a specific place to serve – as wives and to serve our husband. Us serving our husbands IS serving God!

Be a Probing Wife
Again..I'm not talking about probing into your husband’s life (you ladies are bad for thinking such things) :) Probe yourself. Continue to review yourself and check up on yourself. Make sure you continue to grow, there is so much out there on marriage and family – study, grow and learn from other’s experiences and failures and apply new things.



I want to recommend an excellent, life-changing book to add to your night stand - it's called “A Woman After God’s Own Heart” by Elizabeth George. It is an excellent book, one of my favorites! I was given it as a wedding gift and told it would be a gift for Mo too - and he would tell you that it has been! I have read it and re-read it and even lead a Bible Study on it. If anyone was interested in the study please contact me and I would be more than happy to send you the worksheets.

So how are you going to continue to grow and change as a wife? I know I need to!!! Remember, it takes EFFORT!  Work for it ladies!! ;)

Simple "Rules for a Happy Marriage" I found online!

Tiff :)

How Does Your Marriage Score? 20 Questions

Lately it has been on my heart to start using this blog to share things about marriage.  I feel there is so much to learn, and sometimes things I've learned are easily forgotten... Marriage and family are the core of our  society – I think satan knows to strike at the core in order to destroy everything. The only way to stay strong during his blows is to be grounded in God’s Word and consistently in prayer.  My husband & I have been married for almost 11 years and we in no wise have a perfect marriage - we still have a lot to learn and a lot to work on, which is why I want to constantly be growing in this area and not become too content.

Those who know me know I love to study on marriage and family!  I keep several marriage books in the drawer on my night stand that I picked up off and on.  I just recently took a pick of one of those great books and it has been SOO good - and I'm only on Chapter Two! :) It's called "Courtship After Marriage" by Zig Ziglar. 

In Chapter Two of his book, Zig inserted a 20 question quiz to determine where you are at in your marriage in regards to courtship.  I've typed the quiz below for you all to test yourselves and your marriage.  Encourage your spouse to take this quiz too and then you can see where each other score and compare answers (which will open the door for communication). 

I really like the way Zig introduces this quiz, he says that you will probably discover that your marriage is not where you thought it was or where your spouse thought it was, but you will discover where your marriage really is. 

Few things to remember, think about each answer and answer honestly.  Remember that this is not to make you feel like your marriage is failing - please be encouraged that you are taking the first step in the right direction by finding out the state of your marriage so then you can work from it.  As I took this test I found there were definitely areas I want to work on.  So pencils up! Write down your answers to each question so you can total a score at the end.

1. We hold hands...
a. several times a day, especially when walking or in public
b. two or three times a week-whether we need to or not
c. occasionally-but not usually
d. never or almost never

2. I am able to share with my spouse...
a. the good and the bad of each day-and both of us enjoy the sharing
b. the good things that happen, but usually not the bad
c. once or twice a week-but usually we're just too busy
d. very little of what happens in my life-it's just too volatile and not worth the risk

3. We talk about...
a. what's happening in our lives and how we feel about things
b. the events of life-but we have to be very careful about sharing feelings, it's risky
c. some things, but quite a few areas are out of bounds in terms of our talking about them
d. just the basics-the kids, the car, the schedule, the budget

4. Our physical or sexual relationship is...
a. excellent-in fact it's better than when we first married
b. regular and pretty satisfying-but seldom dramatic ("dramatic"...makes me laugh, thanks Zig)
c. "hit or miss"
d. almost more trouble than it's worth

5. In our relationship, romance...
a. isn't just tied to sex, but is an integral part of every day-a touch of the hand, a shared look across the room, a special gift for no occasion
b. is part of most occasions when we make love, but usually not at other times
c. usually blooms on special occasions such as Valentine's, anniversary, etc
d. seems to have gone the way of the nickel candy bar

6. In our marriage, money is...
a. a subject we handle as a partnership
b. a subject we try to avoid
c. a source of occasional conflict
d. the trigger for ongoing marital war

7. In our marriage, most decisions, especially major ones, are made...
a. jointly, after thorough discussions
b. usually by just one of us
c. only after the trauma of major conflict
d. only after postponement due to war-and sometimes not at all

8. We handle conflict...
a. by facing it-and each other-head-on, lovingly sharing feelings, listening to each other, perhaps even holding hands while we're having the discussion, then "making up"
b. by ignoring it mostly-we have very little conflict-but the exceptions can be explosive and deadly
c. pretty well occasionally-but some topics produce a lot of bloodshed name calling, and "low blows"
d. very poorly-we dredge up the past, call names, inflict a lot of pain and threats, even though we should be good at this since we argue a lot

9. We go out on dates...
a. regularly, at least weekly, and we enjoy them
b. once or twice a month-and usually we have a good time
c. occasionally-and sometimes we even enjoy them
d. not at all-isn't dating for unmarried people?

10. My view of marriage is...
a. a lifelong commitment, a shared partnership, the best relationship possible between two humans
b. the same  as "a" officially, but we occasionally threaten or discuss wanting to be out of the marriage
c. like that of my spouse-we both seem to feel we're not "quite right" for each other, but we'll probably stick it out
d. if the marriage survives, it may take a miracle

11. My spouse is...
a. my best friend, my lover and only romantic interest, and my life partner
b. two of the above (you pick 'em)
c. one of the above
d. none of the above-but at least we're still together, even if only by a thread

12. Our marriage relationship...
a. takes work, but it's worth it-the rewards far exceed the cost of the effort
b. has been pretty easy, but at times I feel we need to work harder
c. often seems it isn't quite worth the effort it takes
d. doesn't get much effort anymore

13. My spouse accepts me...
a. unconditionally, with genuine acceptance and love, flaws and all-just as I am
b. most of the time, but he/she would sure like to change a few things
c. as is, but also as a "project" because he/she is constantly letting me know how I need to improve
d. did you say accepts...I feel I'm given the ultimatum, "improve or else!"

14. I accept my spouse...
a. unconditionally, good and bad, strengths and flaws
b. pretty much, but there are some needed changes
c. to a degree, but I"m trying to get those changes made
d. I've come close to giving up on trying to get those changes made
d. I've come close to giving up on trying to change him/her-the accepting part I gave up on a long time ago

15. Spiritually, we...
a. are right together in our commitment to a shared personal faith in god
b. both have a strong faith, but we disagree on some key issues
c. have little interest-and that seems to be OK with both of us most of the time
d. seem to be at war over spiritual issues a lot of the time

16. When it comes to areas of disagreement, such as how strict to be with the kids or whether to make a major purchase, we...
a. discuss all sides and possibilities, then agree on a resolution
b. decide who will give in (usually me-usually him/her), in other words, one of us rules the roost
c. move from discussion to major conflict-often without successful resolution-or one of the us just withdraws
d. add the question to our list of "battle issues" in our ongoing, marital conflict

17. Being away from each other, even briefly as on an overnight business trip...
a. constitutes a hard-to-endure time during which we both look forward eagerly to reunion-and we really do enjoy "the reunion"
b. is something we've become more used to over time-but we still really miss each other
c. constitutes something that can give us some relief from conflict, hassles, etc
d. has come to be viewed as a high point in our "existence"

18. If I had my choice...
a. my spouse and I would spend an extended time together on a trip to some special enjoyable place
b. we'd do a short trip together-we seem to become bored with each other
c. we wouldn't go anywhere together-it's not worth the hassles, besides there are too many responsibilities at home
d. I'd take an extended trip to Tahiti-without my spouse

19. Weekend or overnight "romantic" getaways are...
a. regular items-scheduled-and sources of great enjoyment
b. occasional treats-wish they could be more often
c. items we feature much less on our schedule than we used to
d. part of our past-if we ever included them

20. Our other friendships (with couples, individuals, etc)...
a. never precede our relationship with each other, but they actually seem to strengthen and enhance our relationship
b. can either help us or, as sometimes happens, detract from our relationship
c. are non-existent-we have no other friends, just the two of us
d. are a source of continual problems and conflicts

SCORING: To determine the status of the Courtship Factor in your marriage, give yourself 5 points for every "a", 3 points for every "b", 1 point for every "c", and zero for every "d" answer. Then go back and add up your points, how did you rate?
80-100             You're courting-keep up the good work
60-80               You need a "courtship tune-up"
40-60               I recommend you start courting-and fast.
Less than 40   You probably need more than just a book, you may need a counselor, pronto

How'd you do?  I will honestly say that I saw a lot of areas of my marriage that could be improved!  For some of you, this test may have been a big eye-opener to some holes in your marriage.  For those that answered mainly "c" or "d" answers, my heart goes out to you and your marriage.  God did not intend for your marriage to be in this state - He desires for you to have all the wonderful things He planned for your marriage - and He still can change your marriage!!  I encourage each of you reading to take some time to pray, maybe even fast and pray, over some specific changes you would like to see changed in your marriage.  Come back periodically and re-quiz your marriage and see if your score improves!

Let me end this post with some encouraging words from Zig: "I believe you can make a bad relationship much, much better and a good relationship magnificent" I want to strive for my marriage to be and always be magnificent!


Tiffany

Look for more marriage tips and encouragement to follow on this blog in the future!

Need a Boost?

I love love love Focus on the Family's website!  They are a buffet table of resources, encouragement, conviction, and direction to grow in your walk, your marriage, and your family.  Jim Daly has done an excellent job heading up Focus on the Family.  Just about once a day, some times more, I get emails from them with just loads of information.  Today's I just thought would be great to put on our blog, it is about praying together with your spouse.  Mo & I have found that praying together for our marriage has been the key that has broken through our tough times, big and small.  We have seen God work when we pray and especially when we pray together.  It truely is vital to a great, life-long marriage! 

So today on my Focus on the Family email was some tips on "Beginning to Pray Together".  Here's the 8 suggestions shared taken from When Couples Pray Together, by David and Jan Stoop.  I just feel like I should mention that these are just beginner suggestions so don't feel like you have to do each one of these things in order to start praying together, just like Mo tells me sometimes when I think things out too much - just go and do it!!

1.Take the time needed to talk with each other about your thoughts and feelings about prayer and praying together. Do this without pressuring one another or trying to make the other feel guilty. See if you can agree that this is something you both want in your marriage. Talk about your fears in as open a way as possible. Talk also about your expectations up front, so they don't undermine you later on.


2.Pick a specific time and make a commitment to each other to begin praying together at that time. You'll never get started praying together on a regular basis if you don't make this definite commitment to a specific, agreed-upon time.

3.Don't be upset if you miss a day. It's important, if you miss a day, to just start again the next day. Consistency will come over time. Let yourself off the hook here.

4.Decide who will do what. For example, who decides where you will pray together? Who reminds the other that it is time to pray together? Couples reported that they couldn't just make a commitment to a time and then assume both of them would remember. It helped for one person to take on the responsibility to say, "Hey, it's time for us to pray together." It was interesting to note that for the couples who were successful, it was more often the husband who did the reminding.

5.Start where you are both comfortable. This means that if only one of you is comfortable praying out loud, then you don't start there, for both aren't comfortable at that place. If one of you insists that you pray together silently, then both can be comfortable at that place and that's where you begin.

6.Set a time limit. It was surprising how many couples made this point. "No long-winded prayers," they said. One wife wrote, "No long monologues with fourteen items in them!" Another couple suggested, "First start small and grow from there. Anyone can pattern five or ten minutes into their lives, as opposed to one hour." Another couple said, "Start with five minutes and then gradually, over time, see what happens. Don't try to take too much time as you begin."

7.Agree at the beginning that neither one of you will preach in your praying. Nothing can stop the process like using the time to pray together as a way to preach to your spouse, or to make suggestions in your prayer. Sometimes just making this a rule will give a reluctant spouse the freedom to get started, for a common fear is that one’s spouse will use this time to preach rather than to pray.  (Tiff note: Wives....re-read this) ;)

8.One husband suggested: "Start with a list of things you want to pray about. This could be done individually or together. Then pray individually about your time of praying together before you actually come together for prayer."

Now - just go and do it!!  =)
We know you will be amazed at how God will honor your prayers together as a married couple to help and strengthen your marriage. 

For more information from Focus on the Family:  Beginning to Pray Together

~TiffTiff~

New Life

I have not been good at keeping up with my blog at all. I have had a lot going on over the past couple months and sitting down to type/write has not been on the top of my list. Since February I have decorated for two church events hosting 120+ at each event, both were a lot of work but a lot of fun and gave me an outlet for my creative side. If I could do event decorating full time I totally would!

The main reason for my post is not to update my life, but to share something else. July 1st this year will be a year since my Grandma Fry went home to be with the Lord. During the past year, my grandpa has had some health issues and they were forced to put their farm on the market to be sold, so my mom went to their home to clean up & gather some memorial items for her and for me & my sister. My grandma kept everything - and I mean everything. Every letter, every picture colored - anything she got she kept. She also wrote down everything. (I think I get that from her because I keep almost everything and write down almost everything.) These things were more special to her than anything. She was a very detailed woman, and especially when it came to family. Let me just say here that you really learn a lot about a person's life and who they really were after they are gone.

Among the belongings was my grandma's Bible. Along with a lot of other notes she kept was her handwritten testimony. I typed it all out so I could have an electronic copy and just had to post it on here to share with whoever reads this blog. I'm so glad to know that she is in heaven right now all because of this testimony. Love you Grandma, and I'll see you soon.



My Grandma Fry’s Testimony (copied exactly how she wrote it)



I wrote this down 1977 – Dec.
My accepting Jesus Christ as my Savior

I believed in God always. I always prayed & felt God’s presence when I pray. But I had been down & discouraged & felt like my life was just going on day by day and didn’t care if it was my last day.

I went to Wanda’s (my mom) on a Wednesday to a Billy Graham crusade prayer meeting. Three other women & me were there & we listened to the service on the radio & then each took a turn & prayed. But I just read the prayer, this was even a help to me. We had a very touching prayer meeting. The next day I turned my radio on to hear the message on the Bill Graham Crusade but I couldn’t get the station on my radio. But I got a station from W. Virginia & I heard a preacher give a very inspiring message on the 23rd Psalm, which I had always fell back on whenever I pray. After the message was over I prayed and asked God to touch me & forgive my sins & help me to be a better person & walk in God’s way & light and grow strong and I accepted Jesus Christ as my Savior. I knew after praying that I had to go forward in church Sunday. I felt His presence like a touch on my shoulder. So I called Wanda & told her my experience & told her I had to go forward in church Sunday & be baptized & be born again.


I believe in God. I am a Southern Baptist & I was born again.


Sincerely, Jeanette Fry

I was baptized that Sunday night.

I'm Amazed

Here’s a copy of our Christmas cards this year we got from Shutterfly. They turned out so great; I can’t wait to order more products from Shutterfly. 

For the past couple years during the month of December and before Christmas I start reading on Jesus’ birth in the book of Luke. I started yesterday in Luke 1 and I’ve been soaking it all in! Let me tell you, God’s Word is alive! “Faith comes by hearing, and hearing by the Word of God” Romans 10:17 and I can testify how true that verse is. If you are looking for a place to study in the Bible, take a look at the book of Luke especially during this season you will not be disappointed. I've been amazed all over again of how miraculous Jesus' birth was and being reminded as the angel Gabriel told Mary in Luke 1:37 "For with God nothing shall be impossible" I have only read a portion of chapter one and already it is bringing my heart & mind to the real reason for the season, the miraculous birth of my Savior & Lord Jesus. I am amazed!


I hope you all have a Merry Christmas & remember the reason for the season - the only reason to rejoice, the only reason to celebrate, the only reason to give gifts, and the only reason to fellowship. May we remember to give our gift of praise and thanksgiving to the only one deserving, Jesus Christ.

MERRY CHRISTMAS!

My Better Half

I told myself I would type this out so I can remember later how much the Lord definitely gave me my better half. Mo & I went to Siesta Key at the end of the summer. It was so wonderful and a much needed vacation as it had been a couple years since the last beach trip we took, even though I got sick the first night and was sick the entire week it was still totally worth it to get away and to be at the beach. We tried to fill this vacation with some activities we’ve always wanted to do, and even though we didn’t get to do everything we did get to do two activities we both never did before and it was a great adventure. When we were planning our vacation, our main goal was to go somewhere we could surf; my sister in law recommended Siesta Key and when we looked it up we thought that would be a great spot to learn somewhat about surfing as the water is calm, clear and beautiful there. The beach has a huge shallow area and you can see the bottom, which was kind of freaking us out at first because we could see fish swimming towards our feet! It is a gorgeous beach!


The first thing we wanted to do was some type of surfing. Mo came across Stand Up Paddleboarding (SUP) which is very similar to surfing except the boards are wider and you use a paddle. It was so much fun but also a little scary. See I'm not a huge fan of the ocean, and there was a light wind that day so everytime we stood up on the boards to paddle it was as if we were acting as a sail and we quickly drifted out into the ocean..out of the shallow water. We would then have to sit down and paddle our way back in to do it again. There were a couple times I got out there and there was a big distance from me to the shore & me to Mo it was very scary. One time I really started freaking out and told Mo that I couldn't get back in, but Mo ~ my better half ~ he just calmed me down and told me to focus. I realized a lot about myself that day, first how I would react if I was in Cast Away (I probably would not survive), second that I freeze when faced with frighting circumstances that I feel I cannot control, and third that God definitely gave me my much better half.


The second activity we wanted to do for the first time was kayaking. The condo we rented offered a tandem kayak we could use. The day we were going to finally try it out, I personally just did not want to. I did not want to get wet or flip and to be honest I think I was in a grumpy mood. :) It was a bad experience for me in many ways and didn't help that I was just really did not have the best attitude. You have to work together with your partner to paddle and move forward or backwards or turn right or left, so you can see where you can learn a lot about how well you work with your spouse and communicate with each other. I think every couple should try this out someday together to see how well they do! :) Even though the experience of kayaking was terrible for me and to make it ten times worse I had just shaved my legs that morning and ladies you know what happens when salt water hits your freshly shaved legs...everytime I paddled the water would run down the paddle onto my legs! It was horrible! However - it was a great learning lesson on why the Lord put Mo & I together. Mo encouraged me to just try it out and here was the opportunity. He coached me on getting into the kayak, communicated so well with me on where to paddle and which direction, and he was so patient and calm. The experience was not the best, but the gratefulness for my husband afterwards I wouldn't trade.


Here's a few pictures of us and even though we don't have a picture to show proof of us standing up on the surf board - we actually did and it was not that hard.


Two great adventures with my better half that I will definitely remember!

Tandem Kayak - and my better half

The SUP boards on our car!

Breakfast with Tiffany and God ~ Father's Day

Well, when I started writing I didn’t realize it was going to turn into a Father’s Day post.  No…Mo is not going to be a father, but my post turned into me writing about my relationship with my Heavenly Father. A couple weeks ago I spent some time reflecting on what I wrote on my previous blog and what the Lord taught me.  I’ve been realizing how most of the time when I write about my Bible Studies and what I’m learning they go along with what I’m struggling through at that time and I don’t even know it.  I’m glad to know I have a Heavenly Father who knows the deep struggles I go through and cares enough for me to encourage me, teach me, and speak to me about those struggles even prior to the time they hit.  There are so many times when I feel like He doesn’t care or isn’t speaking, but that is probably because I’m not listening very well…I’m definitely a child with selective hearing, picking and choosing what I WANT to hear from my Father.  I don’t want to hear that I have to wait and I don’t want to hear that I can’t have something.  I don’t want to hear that I have to learn before I can have either.  Don’t tell me you don’t think this way! :) I’m learning that it’s good for me to wait, it’s good for me to not have what I want when I want it, and it’s good for me to learn before I can have what I want…and most of the time I’m kicking & screaming while learning this!  I’m glad that my Father doesn’t spoil me and give me everything I ask for when I ask for it, no matter how much I would love it, because I know it wouldn’t be good for me.  What would it do to me?  It would probably turn me into a prideful, spoiled little brat!!  I mean I already kick & scream when I can’t have things sometimes, so how would I act if I got everything all the time?  Just being honest.  I know myself and I know that if my Heavenly Father gave me everything I asked for, when I asked for it, and the way I asked for it then I would expect to get what I wanted every time and I would never learn patience, I would never learn to listen, and I would never learn about my Heavenly Father and learn to be like Him.   

The other day I watched the movie “Evan Almighty” and of course I loved it.  There were a few things in there that just stuck to me so much, but more than anything was when God (Morgan Freeman) tells Evan (Steve Carell): “Let's just say that whatever I do, I do because I love you.”  Ever since I heard that the Lord has been reminding me of the truth in that.  Among all the “why’s” in my life or the waiting or the learning or struggles, God does things because He loves me.  What if in every situation we faced on a daily basis or even in those areas of our lives where we are waiting and learning or struggling, we heard God say – “Let’s just say that whatever I do, I do because I love you”.  Tell yourself that in any situation you are facing right now, whatever God does or allows in your life, He does and allows because He loves you!  Is this not what a true Father does?  If you are a child of my Heavenly Father, and you are struggling or you don’t understand what the Lord is doing, or you are in a period of your life where you need to learn before you can have – know that your Heavenly Father only does things out of love.  Sure does turn those situations around huh? :) Whatever God does, He does because He loves you! Thank you Lord for being a truly amazing Father!